Johnny and Amber

Finally, after 6 long weeks, the trial is over. Johnny wins and Amber loses. If you watched the trial, you pretty much already knew Johnny had this in the bag.

Amber created this story and lied so many times under oath that its hard to keep count. What Amber did, besides make herself look like an idiot, was shit on actual domestic abuse survivors.

Women everyday are hurt physically and emotionally by their boyfriend, fiancĂ©, husband. Some, don’t live to talk about it. For the others though, they are the true survivors. Not some B list actress who uses a bruise kit to get back at her husband.

Amber told Johnny “No one will believe you”. That may not be the case with Johnny, but for other males, that statement rings true. 1 in 4 women and 1 in 7 men will experience severe physical violence by an intimate partner in their lifetime. (CDC, 2017) 61% of the men who call the ManKind Initiative helpline have never spoken to anyone before about the abuse they are suffering and 64% would not have called if the helpline was not anonymous. (mankind.org.uk)

If you think about it, what do we tell young boys when they fall or get hurt? “You’re fine”, “That didn’t hurt”, “Stop your crying”, etc. From a young age, males are taught to be tough, to not tell or complain when they get hurt. So why men don’t admit being a victim of domestic violence? Well, its the stigma of showing weakness.

A global study out last year of more than 125,000 people from all socioeconomic backgrounds found children who witnessed domestic violence had the same risk and incidence of PTSD as soldiers returning from war. (USAToday,2019) Johnny grew up with domestic violence, and instead of it being a learned behavior, he wanted to break the cycle. He knew what Amber was capable of, because he saw it early in childhood. As we have heard during this trial, on numerous occasions he tried to separate himself from her presence.

Johnny is no angel as we have learned from this trial. However, his peers were smart enough to see through the lies that Amber told on the stand. They saw through the uneducated witnesses testimony on Ambers team.

After the verdict, Amber said “I’m even more disappointed with what this verdict means for other women. It is a setback.” Well, next time don’t try to ruin your ex-husband and just go live your life. Amber created this mess and will more than likely be a castaway in Hollywood. Her words can no longer be trusted.